The best part about being in a long distance relationship is the times when you get to be together. Inevitably what comes after the best part is the worst part, the times when you have to be apart. For the past 2 weeks I've been lucky enough to have time with Mr. Coastie. But as always, that time always comes to an end and he has to go back to being 7 hours away and I have to go back to being an overwhelmed, no spare time, no fun maniac of a medical student who often feels like her head isn' t even on straight. There is a distinct kind of loneliness that you feel after saying goodbye to the person you love knowing that there will be weeks passing before you get to see each other again. Sometimes its worse than others. This time is worse than others.
If you've never been in a long distance relationship you can't quite understand the sacrifice that is made and the effort and work you have to put in each day to make things work. The way I look at it Mr. Coastie and I will come out a much stronger couple, a couple that knows how to communicate (because after all when all you've got is a phone your forced to learn how to be the best communicators the world has ever seen), a couple that can withstand anything and a couple that will never take our time together for granted.
This is definitely the toughest part of this whole situation, the goodbye's always come and they undoubtedly are always hard, its definitely not a walk in the park but we make it work and we make it work well. I have to admit I'm a pretty lucky girl to get to marry Mr. Coastie and I'd spend the next 20 years in a long distance relationship with him if that's what I had to do.
Monday, January 10, 2011
Frustrations and Freak Outs
As of tomorrow the officially countdown in 5 months. I just realized how short 5 months is. I know that sounds silly but seriously its like i woke up this morning and was like OMG 5 months, thats not enough time! I'm sure everything that needs to get done will get done, I have faith that I'll make it work after all I work great under pressure. Despite knowing that I work great under pressure I proceeded to have a day long freak out. part of this may have been attributable to the fact that Mr. Coastie left yesterday, part of it may have been that school suddenly decided to take over my life again and part of it maybe because I had to set some things out in my schedule up to the end of may. Whatever the reason, tonight my mind was freak out city.
I'm slightly aggravated because In my grand scheme of plans Id wanted to have my Save the Dates out by now, however they haven't even been ordered yet. I wont go into it, but its something that's out of my control and I'm sitting here with idle hands calculating the order/ship/addressing time for the STDs and wondering when its going to get done. which then leads me into thinking that we also need to think about ordering our invitations soon and table arrangements and I don't even have a florist booked yet or the hotels locked in or a million other things that have been running through my mind all day. And to think this all came from staring at a calendar.
In the midst of things I'm trying to remain calm. I'm trying to remind myself it will come together. I'm also realizing that Juggling school and the last few months of wedding planning may be harder than I expected. this is when I need a planner, or a servant, either one would do.
I'm slightly aggravated because In my grand scheme of plans Id wanted to have my Save the Dates out by now, however they haven't even been ordered yet. I wont go into it, but its something that's out of my control and I'm sitting here with idle hands calculating the order/ship/addressing time for the STDs and wondering when its going to get done. which then leads me into thinking that we also need to think about ordering our invitations soon and table arrangements and I don't even have a florist booked yet or the hotels locked in or a million other things that have been running through my mind all day. And to think this all came from staring at a calendar.
In the midst of things I'm trying to remain calm. I'm trying to remind myself it will come together. I'm also realizing that Juggling school and the last few months of wedding planning may be harder than I expected. this is when I need a planner, or a servant, either one would do.
Wednesday, January 05, 2011
a rainbow of yellow (shoes)
For those of you that know me you know I'm detail oriented and a bit of a perfectionist/control freak. Its okay, you can admit it, because I admit it. So it may come as a surprise that when it comes to my bridesmaids and outfitting for them for the big day I'm doing something a little unorthodox. Mismatching. yep that's right. they wont look all exactly the same and exactly uniform.
I really wanted all my girls to be very comfortable and be able to have fun with their outfits. While I have picked a dress for them (I'm not that adventurous to let them wander out on their own and hope they return with something great, although I'm sure they'll all could, after all they are quite fashionable) , I thought it would be a fun idea to let them pick their own shoes. ( I know, you're sitting there thinking"WOW! that's big? shoes? yipee! in a very sarcastic tone of course) I came across this photo:
source
Instantly I thought what a fun idea it would be for the girls to go out and buy a great pair of yellow heels they would never have a reason to wear anywhere else and they may never wear again but are still completely amazing.
The girls officially have 5 months to find the cutest yellow shoes that exist to go with their little black dresses and make my mismatch dream come true!
I really wanted all my girls to be very comfortable and be able to have fun with their outfits. While I have picked a dress for them (I'm not that adventurous to let them wander out on their own and hope they return with something great, although I'm sure they'll all could, after all they are quite fashionable) , I thought it would be a fun idea to let them pick their own shoes. ( I know, you're sitting there thinking"WOW! that's big? shoes? yipee! in a very sarcastic tone of course) I came across this photo:
Instantly I thought what a fun idea it would be for the girls to go out and buy a great pair of yellow heels they would never have a reason to wear anywhere else and they may never wear again but are still completely amazing.
The girls officially have 5 months to find the cutest yellow shoes that exist to go with their little black dresses and make my mismatch dream come true!
Tuesday, January 04, 2011
we'll take a cup of kindness yet, for auld lang syne.
Happy New Year everyone! Im excited because I can finally say im getting married THIS year. yep thats right, just about 5 months from now I'll be a Mrs.
I'm proud that its only taken me 4 days to get around to my obligatory New Years Post. thats pretty good if you ask me. I'm not going to talk about resolutions or anything of the sort. I've learned to stop making resolutions because lets be honest nobody follows them anyways, Instead I like to just take a minute to think about what I hope to get out of the new year and what i can improve in my life to make me a better person,friend, student, daughter,fiancee etc. I think whats most important when thinking about a new year and a so called fresh start is not to forget the one that you've just brought to a close. Its very important for me at least to learn from my mistakes and while I try not to have regrets and I don't hold grudges I make it a point to remember the things ive done wrong so that I'm sure Ive learned a lesson from them.
2010 was quite the year or me. both good and bad. Obviously some big things happened, I started medical school and got engaged both of which invariably have changed my life (for the good of course) and Im beyond excited to see what 2011 has in store for me I have the best hopes and wishes not only for myself but for my loved ones and I pray that this year turns out to do great things for everyone that I know. I know for myself Im looking forward to growing my education, becoming an amazing man's wife and gaining a whole new family of pretty amazing people. oh and did I mention i turn 25 this year (WOW, at least its on 11/11/11, so i can forget that im old and have fun with the luckiest birthday ever).
The last 2 years of of my life have without a doubt been the most defining. without going into details I can say that who I am has been changed and my strength has been defined more than I thought it would be in just a few years and Im happy to say that who I am today is a product of those changes, trials and triumphs.
I thought it would be fun to take a little trip down memory lane so for your viewing pleasure (or laughing pleasure) here are some pics of new years over the last 3 years from 2 week after graduating college to being halfway thorugh my first year of med school and 5 months away from being married
New Years 2009 (Jacksonville, Fl)
New Years 2010 (Kalamazoo, MI)
New Years 2011 (Orlando, Fl)
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
I may be getting married in June but I'm Certainly no June...
Im no June Cleaver, that is
I've said it before and I'll say it again. I am a terrible cook. I'm okay with this this fact. really I am. I'm al a fast learner and have been ever so slowly trying my hand at this mystery wizardry called cooking.My first adventure as you all know from previous posts was Christmas Dinner. Except for a few tears and some burnt Crescent rolls I would say the dinner was successful. Mr. Coastie said he liked the burnt rolls (yeah right) but at least he was a good sport. The rest of the dinner aside being quite beige (not much color, Tom Colicchio would certainly have Padma telling me to pack my knives and leave for the lack of color and plating creativity) was delish if I d say so myself. and Mr. Coastie got totake a bucn of left overs on duty for the remainder of the week. And if he was just being nice and didnt actually like my dinner, ill never know and at least it looked pretty:
The remainder of Christmas was great, we went to the Movies to see Chronicles of Narnia and drove t check out some Christmas lights. Im loving this mini vacay from the life of a Med student! We're having Christmas number 2 with my parents in a few days when Mr. Coastie gets off duty and then we're both off to the Capital One Bowl for NYE and to see Michigan State vs Alabama (my parents Christmas gift to us) Its Mr. Coastie's first bowl game so it should be fun and we get to spend NYE in Orlando with one of my Bridesmaids and her boyfriend!
Hope everyone had a fabulous Christmas and Ill leave you with some pictures of our little Christmas morning
I've said it before and I'll say it again. I am a terrible cook. I'm okay with this this fact. really I am. I'm al a fast learner and have been ever so slowly trying my hand at this mystery wizardry called cooking.My first adventure as you all know from previous posts was Christmas Dinner. Except for a few tears and some burnt Crescent rolls I would say the dinner was successful. Mr. Coastie said he liked the burnt rolls (yeah right) but at least he was a good sport. The rest of the dinner aside being quite beige (not much color, Tom Colicchio would certainly have Padma telling me to pack my knives and leave for the lack of color and plating creativity) was delish if I d say so myself. and Mr. Coastie got totake a bucn of left overs on duty for the remainder of the week. And if he was just being nice and didnt actually like my dinner, ill never know and at least it looked pretty:
The remainder of Christmas was great, we went to the Movies to see Chronicles of Narnia and drove t check out some Christmas lights. Im loving this mini vacay from the life of a Med student! We're having Christmas number 2 with my parents in a few days when Mr. Coastie gets off duty and then we're both off to the Capital One Bowl for NYE and to see Michigan State vs Alabama (my parents Christmas gift to us) Its Mr. Coastie's first bowl game so it should be fun and we get to spend NYE in Orlando with one of my Bridesmaids and her boyfriend!
Hope everyone had a fabulous Christmas and Ill leave you with some pictures of our little Christmas morning
Friday, December 17, 2010
Its Beginning to look alot like Christmas!
One week until Christmas Eve! I love this time of year, its absolutely my favorite, I love the weather and the fun and the parties and the food and new years and remembering what its all about (giving myself a spiritual check up, Christmas is a good time to make sure youre on the right path when it comes to God).
This Christmas is going to be a VERY different one. Mr. Coastie is unfortunately on duty Chrismas eve and Christmas Day and can't leave town. Thus it will be our first Christmas just the two of us. Im (well WE're) going to attempt to cook a big Christmas dinner for ourselves and everything! For those of you who know me you know what a scary thought this is. I imagine there will be lots of phone calls made to Momma Doctor and Momma Coastie by the end of the night. whats on the menu you ask? Well I figured we just cook a chicken since there is only two of us no need for turkey, plus its SUPER easy to do a whole chicken (ive actually done it before!) so we'll do a whole chicken stuffed with some veggies like onions and carrots garlic, of course were going to do mashed potatoes, Im not attempting gravy, my mom is making me some that ill reheat. after all it IS our first time, you think i can handle gravy? I dont! were also doing stuffing and I want to make green bean casserole as well. So if anyone has any good easy recipes/ suggestions for me let me know!
Last week when we were home we decorated my families Christmas Tree and It was really nice to have Mr. Coastie be a part of it this year, it was a fun little moment! Momma Doctor even bought us our first ornament for our own tree
So yesterday when I got to Mr. Coastie's (after an agonizing 8 hour drive post 4 hour exam) I arrived to an adorable little tree decorated with gator ornaments (good choice Coastie, good choice) so we put up our stockings and added our new ornament (above) and the ones we bought at Brunner's Christmas Wonderland (world's largest Christmas store, its in Frankenmeuth, It was on the travel channel and its AWESOME) last year. and voila we have our very own (Charlie brown-esque) Christmas Tree and our stockings (hand made by Mr. Coastie's mom) hung by the fireplace :)
This Christmas is going to be a VERY different one. Mr. Coastie is unfortunately on duty Chrismas eve and Christmas Day and can't leave town. Thus it will be our first Christmas just the two of us. Im (well WE're) going to attempt to cook a big Christmas dinner for ourselves and everything! For those of you who know me you know what a scary thought this is. I imagine there will be lots of phone calls made to Momma Doctor and Momma Coastie by the end of the night. whats on the menu you ask? Well I figured we just cook a chicken since there is only two of us no need for turkey, plus its SUPER easy to do a whole chicken (ive actually done it before!) so we'll do a whole chicken stuffed with some veggies like onions and carrots garlic, of course were going to do mashed potatoes, Im not attempting gravy, my mom is making me some that ill reheat. after all it IS our first time, you think i can handle gravy? I dont! were also doing stuffing and I want to make green bean casserole as well. So if anyone has any good easy recipes/ suggestions for me let me know!
Last week when we were home we decorated my families Christmas Tree and It was really nice to have Mr. Coastie be a part of it this year, it was a fun little moment! Momma Doctor even bought us our first ornament for our own tree
Im officially 1/8th of a doctor!
First semester of medical school is officially done! It feels nice to know that Ive made it here. it seems like just yesterday my roommate and I were freaking out the first week of school wondering how we were going to get through. And here we are! on the other side of semester one!
the next thing on the list is White Coat Ceremony. Ive been looking forward to that since they day I got accepted to school. its not a fancy to do we really just walk across a stage and get a coat put on us, but its my very first REALY white coat, name embroidered and all (even though I'll have to get my name taken out and redone over the summer). Its happening at the end of January and since we only get 3 tickets Mr. Coastie won't be able to come (but thats okay because its the same day as one of his REALLY good friends from home's wedding, so it gives him an excuse to miss it and get to go to Michigan)
I must admit there is something fabulous about knowing that I have nothing to do (but wedding planning of course) for 2 and half weeks! we do ahve some assigned pharmacology reading but chances are ill not be doing that over break. It sounds lame but excited to watch TV again. I miss my terrible Bravo shows!
Im lucky i get to spend a few days with Mr. Coastie and the after break he's coming to soFla for 9 whole days!
Also Just last week we got a chance to go to one of my old friends weddings. I love weddings. im a sucker for them and I always cry. no really ALWAYS. you dont even want to know how badly ill be blubbering at our big day. In any case it was tons of fun and even though it was in the midst of finals im glad I got a chance to go! so just a quick congratuations to the new Mrs. Peters! you looked beautiful melissa :)
the next thing on the list is White Coat Ceremony. Ive been looking forward to that since they day I got accepted to school. its not a fancy to do we really just walk across a stage and get a coat put on us, but its my very first REALY white coat, name embroidered and all (even though I'll have to get my name taken out and redone over the summer). Its happening at the end of January and since we only get 3 tickets Mr. Coastie won't be able to come (but thats okay because its the same day as one of his REALLY good friends from home's wedding, so it gives him an excuse to miss it and get to go to Michigan)
I must admit there is something fabulous about knowing that I have nothing to do (but wedding planning of course) for 2 and half weeks! we do ahve some assigned pharmacology reading but chances are ill not be doing that over break. It sounds lame but excited to watch TV again. I miss my terrible Bravo shows!
Im lucky i get to spend a few days with Mr. Coastie and the after break he's coming to soFla for 9 whole days!
Also Just last week we got a chance to go to one of my old friends weddings. I love weddings. im a sucker for them and I always cry. no really ALWAYS. you dont even want to know how badly ill be blubbering at our big day. In any case it was tons of fun and even though it was in the midst of finals im glad I got a chance to go! so just a quick congratuations to the new Mrs. Peters! you looked beautiful melissa :)
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
